Add defensive relay features with rate limiting and connection limits

Implement defensive measures to protect against DoS attacks:
- Add explicit rate limits (500 subscriptions, 60 events/min per connection)
- Add total connection limit (default: 500, configurable via NGIT_MAX_CONNECTIONS)
- Update configuration across all 4 locations (src, nix, docs, .env.example)

Per-IP rate limiting deferred until abuse is detected in production or
implemented in rust-nostr relay-builder to benefit the entire Nostr ecosystem.

Documentation added explaining the defensive features and rationale.
Detailed analysis of other relay implementations preserved in commit history.

1 files changed, 11 insertions, 1 deletions

diff --git a/.env.example b/.env.example
index 707efd4..953ae93 100644
--- a/.env.example
+++ b/.env.example
@@ -277,4 +277,14 @@
 # Examples:
 #   NGIT_EVENT_BLACKLIST=npub1spam...
 #   NGIT_EVENT_BLACKLIST=npub1spam...,npub1abuser...
-# NGIT_EVENT_BLACKLIST=
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+# NGIT_EVENT_BLACKLIST=
+
+# ============================================================================
+# RATE LIMITING & DOS PROTECTION
+# ============================================================================
+
+# Maximum total connections to the relay
+# Prevents connection exhaustion DoS attacks
+# CLI: --max-connections <count>
+# Default: 500
+# NGIT_MAX_CONNECTIONS=500
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