Add defensive relay features with rate limiting and connection limits

Implement defensive measures to protect against DoS attacks:
- Add explicit rate limits (500 subscriptions, 60 events/min per connection)
- Add total connection limit (default: 500, configurable via NGIT_MAX_CONNECTIONS)
- Update configuration across all 4 locations (src, nix, docs, .env.example)

Per-IP rate limiting deferred until abuse is detected in production or
implemented in rust-nostr relay-builder to benefit the entire Nostr ecosystem.

Documentation added explaining the defensive features and rationale.
Detailed analysis of other relay implementations preserved in commit history.

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