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@@ -6,7 +6,7 @@ Private Direct Messages
 
 `draft` `optional`
 
-This NIP defines an encrypted direct messaging scheme using [NIP-44](44.md) encryption and [NIP-59](59.md) seals and gift wraps. 
+This NIP defines an encrypted direct messaging scheme using [NIP-44](44.md) encryption and [NIP-59](59.md) seals and gift wraps.
 
 ## Direct Message Kind
 
@@ -18,7 +18,7 @@ Kind `14` is a chat message. `p` tags identify one or more receivers of the mess
   "pubkey": "<sender-pubkey>",
   "created_at": now(),
   "kind": 14,
-  "tags": [ 
+  "tags": [
     ["p", "<receiver-1-pubkey>", "<relay-url>"],
     ["p", "<receiver-2-pubkey>", "<relay-url>"],
     ["e", "<kind-14-id>", "<relay-url>", "reply"] // if this is a reply
@@ -29,19 +29,19 @@ Kind `14` is a chat message. `p` tags identify one or more receivers of the mess
 }
 ```
 
-`.content` MUST be plain text. Fields `id` and `created_at` are required. 
+`.content` MUST be plain text. Fields `id` and `created_at` are required.
 
-Tags that mention, quote and assemble threading structures MUST follow [NIP-10](10.md). 
+Tags that mention, quote and assemble threading structures MUST follow [NIP-10](10.md).
 
 Kind `14`s MUST never be signed. If it is signed, the message might leak to relays and become **fully public**.
 
 ## Chat Rooms
 
-The set of `pubkey` + `p` tags defines a chat room. If a new `p` tag is added or a current one is removed, a new room is created with clean message history. 
+The set of `pubkey` + `p` tags defines a chat room. If a new `p` tag is added or a current one is removed, a new room is created with clean message history.
 
-Clients SHOULD render messages of the same room in a continuous thread. 
+Clients SHOULD render messages of the same room in a continuous thread.
 
-An optional `subject` tag defines the current name/topic of the conversation. Any member can change the topic by simply submitting a new `subject` to an existing `pubkey` + `p`-tags room. There is no need to send `subject` in every message. The newest `subject` in the thread is the subject of the conversation. 
+An optional `subject` tag defines the current name/topic of the conversation. Any member can change the topic by simply submitting a new `subject` to an existing `pubkey` + `p`-tags room. There is no need to send `subject` in every message. The newest `subject` in the thread is the subject of the conversation.
 
 ## Encrypting
 
@@ -51,7 +51,7 @@ Following [NIP-59](59.md), the **unsigned** `kind:14` chat message must be seale
 {
   "id": "<usual hash>",
   "pubkey": randomPublicKey,
-  "created_at": randomTimeUpTo2DaysInThePast(), 
+  "created_at": randomTimeUpTo2DaysInThePast(),
   "kind": 1059, // gift wrap
   "tags": [
     ["p", receiverPublicKey, "<relay-url>"] // receiver
@@ -60,7 +60,7 @@ Following [NIP-59](59.md), the **unsigned** `kind:14` chat message must be seale
     {
       "id": "<usual hash>",
       "pubkey": senderPublicKey,
-      "created_at": randomTimeUpTo2DaysInThePast(), 
+      "created_at": randomTimeUpTo2DaysInThePast(),
       "kind": 13, // seal
       "tags": [], // no tags
       "content": nip44Encrypt(unsignedKind14, senderPrivateKey, receiverPublicKey),
@@ -72,17 +72,17 @@ Following [NIP-59](59.md), the **unsigned** `kind:14` chat message must be seale
 }
 ```
 
-The encryption algorithm MUST use the latest version of [NIP-44](44.md). 
+The encryption algorithm MUST use the latest version of [NIP-44](44.md).
 
 Clients MUST verify if pubkey of the `kind:13` is the same pubkey on the `kind:14`, otherwise any sender can impersonate others by simply changing the pubkey on `kind:14`.
 
-Clients SHOULD randomize `created_at` in up to two days in the past in both the seal and the gift wrap to make sure grouping by `created_at` doesn't reveal any metadata. 
+Clients SHOULD randomize `created_at` in up to two days in the past in both the seal and the gift wrap to make sure grouping by `created_at` doesn't reveal any metadata.
 
 The gift wrap's `p`-tag can be the receiver's main pubkey or an alias key created to receive DMs without exposing the receiver's identity.
 
 Clients CAN offer disappearing messages by setting an `expiration` tag in the gift wrap of each receiver or by not generating a gift wrap to the sender's public key
 
-## Publishing 
+## Publishing
 
 Kind `10050` indicates the user's preferred relays to receive DMs. The event MUST include a list of `relay` tags with relay URIs.
 
@@ -98,16 +98,22 @@ Kind `10050` indicates the user's preferred relays to receive DMs. The event MUS
 }
 ```
 
-Clients SHOULD publish kind `14` events to the `10050`-listed relays, falling back to `read` relays of [NIP-65](65.md) if `kind:10050` is not available.
+Clients SHOULD publish kind `14` events to the `10050`-listed relays. If that is not found that indicates the user is not ready to receive messages under this NIP and clients shouldn't try.
+
+## Relays
+
+It's advisable that relays do not serve `kind:14` to clients other than the ones tagged in them.
+
+It's advisable that users choose relays that conform to these practices.
 
-Clients SHOULD guide users to keep `kind:10050` lists small (1-3 relays) and SHOULD spread it to as many relays as viable. 
+Clients SHOULD guide users to keep `kind:10050` lists small (1-3 relays) and SHOULD spread it to as many relays as viable.
 
 ## Benefits & Limitations
 
-This NIP offers the following privacy and security features: 
+This NIP offers the following privacy and security features:
 
 1. **No Metadata Leak**: Participant identities, each message's real date and time, event kinds, and other event tags are all hidden from the public. Senders and receivers cannot be linked with public information alone.
-2. **No Public Group Identifiers**: There is no public central queue, channel or otherwise converging identifier to correlate or count all messages in the same group. 
+2. **No Public Group Identifiers**: There is no public central queue, channel or otherwise converging identifier to correlate or count all messages in the same group.
 3. **No Moderation**: There are no group admins: no invitations or bans.
 4. **No Shared Secrets**: No secret must be known to all members that can leak or be mistakenly shared
 5. **Fully Recoverable**: Messages can be fully recoverable by any client with the user's private key
@@ -115,13 +121,17 @@ This NIP offers the following privacy and security features:
 7. **Uses Public Relays**: Messages can flow through public relays without loss of privacy. Private relays can increase privacy further, but they are not required.
 8. **Cold Storage**: Users can unilaterally opt-in to sharing their messages with a separate key that is exclusive for DM backup and recovery.
 
-The main limitation of this approach is having to send a separate encrypted event to each receiver. Group chats with more than 100 participants should find a more suitable messaging scheme. 
+The main limitation of this approach is having to send a separate encrypted event to each receiver. Group chats with more than 100 participants should find a more suitable messaging scheme.
 
-----
+## Implementation
+
+Clients implementing this NIP should by default only connect to the set of relays found in their `kind:10050` list. From that they should be able to load all messages both sent and received as well as get new live updates, making it for a very simple and lightweight implementation that should be fast.
+
+When sending a message to anyone, clients must then connect to the relays in the receiver's `kind:10050` and send the events there, but can disconnect right after unless more messages are expected to be sent (e.g. the chat tab is still selected). Clients should also send a copy of their outgoing messages to their own `kind:10050` relay set.
 
 ## Examples
 
-This example sends the message `Hola, que tal?` from `nsec1w8udu59ydjvedgs3yv5qccshcj8k05fh3l60k9x57asjrqdpa00qkmr89m` to `nsec12ywtkplvyq5t6twdqwwygavp5lm4fhuang89c943nf2z92eez43szvn4dt`. 
+This example sends the message `Hola, que tal?` from `nsec1w8udu59ydjvedgs3yv5qccshcj8k05fh3l60k9x57asjrqdpa00qkmr89m` to `nsec12ywtkplvyq5t6twdqwwygavp5lm4fhuang89c943nf2z92eez43szvn4dt`.
 
 The two final GiftWraps, one to the receiver and the other to the sender, are:
 
@@ -138,7 +148,7 @@ The two final GiftWraps, one to the receiver and the other to the sender, are:
    "sig":"a3c6ce632b145c0869423c1afaff4a6d764a9b64dedaf15f170b944ead67227518a72e455567ca1c2a0d187832cecbde7ed478395ec4c95dd3e71749ed66c480"
 }
 ```
- 
+
 ```json
 {
    "id":"162b0611a1911cfcb30f8a5502792b346e535a45658b3a31ae5c178465509721",
@@ -151,4 +161,4 @@ The two final GiftWraps, one to the receiver and the other to the sender, are:
    "content":"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",
    "sig":"c94e74533b482aa8eeeb54ae72a5303e0b21f62909ca43c8ef06b0357412d6f8a92f96e1a205102753777fd25321a58fba3fb384eee114bd53ce6c06a1c22bab"
 }
-``` 
+```